As a stay-at-home mom that feels like she has her hands full all day, it always amazes me to meet moms who work full-time. Not that we STHM's just sit around eating bon bons or whatever, but I think each mom has their sacrifices and for some it's work and for others it's staying at home.
We had emailed back and forth a few times and I was super excited to meet her. She was super fun and easy going and man, she loves her little Ruthie so much! I love this series because each time I sit down to write about these mama's I'm just so inspired.
Full of life and the love for Nashville and all things country, here I introduce you to our second ma in the series, Meg!
Tell me a little about your lifestyle.
My husband Eric and I love living in East Nashville. He is a songwriter/artist and I work for a Country record label group on music row. We are new parents to 6.5 month old Ruthie who is the love of our lives. We are fortunate to have a wonderful group of friends who are our surrogate family (My family is in Minnesota and Eric's is in Alaska).
I often struggle to reconcile dreams that I had pre-motherhood with post-motherhood.What are you wrestling to find time for?
Working out! Just before I got pregnant I trained for and ran a 1/2 marathon in Nashville. It was on my bucket list to run a 1/2 marathon. Although I've always considered myself and athlete (I played tennis & ice hockey growing up) I historically had always hated running. However, through my training I really came to love it...particularly what it did for me mentally. Now, as a mom, I just can't figure out how I could possibly work it back into my schedule. When I'm not at work, I'm with Rutihe, doing laundry or trying to sleep!
We know there's few things more vulnerable than birthing a baby, whatever way you did; or the embarrassing moment you unexpectedly let-down and were covered in your own breastmilk. All in the name and beauty of raising a child. Share a funny or honest or sobering moment when something happened that put you way outside your comfort zone.
Having to reach out to my male boss to formally request a place to pump breastmilk 4 times a day was something that made me feel really vulnerable. I am really lucky that I have my own office with a door that locks from the inside so I am able to pump relatively comfortably in my office, however it's still very awkward. I've had people knock on my door mid-pumping session and when I don't respond try to talk to me through the door... I must admit that has made me a bit uncomfortable then. I sometimes wonder what people at work think of my choice to pump. It's inconvenient and a lot of work and I think some of them probably think I'm crazy for doing it. But, at the end of the day it's all about making the right choice for my daughter and I know it's the best thing I can do for her outside of breastfeeding her.
Expectation vs. Reality: Share a time when these were awfully unbalanced.
I had third degree tearing from my vaginal birth. I remember speaking very obtusely about tearing during birthing classes, but it was discussed so briefly that I thought it wouldn't be a big deal. I was so wrong. I was completely unprepared to take care of myself on top of taking care of a new born. I remember feeling really slighted that it hadn't been discussed in greater detail. And, at the hospital (because it is something they see everyday) no one really took the time to explain to me what a third degree tear was, how to properly care for it, how long I should expect it to take to heal, and what I could do to make it happen more quickly. And, it would've been nice if they had maybe talked to my husband about it as well so that he could understand how difficult it would be for me to do things like bend down to pick something up, or go up/down stairs. Fortunately, my husband is kind and helpful, but I am a little proud and probably didn't share with him how badly I was feeling at first.
What do you hope your children know about you? and/or What do you hope to impart to your children?
I hope my Ruthie has as wonderful a childhood as I had. I hope that she is kind, smart, quick, whimsical, musical, active and doesn't care too much about impressing others. I hope that she loves to learn and play. I want her to take her time when learning and not feel rushed. I hope that her Creativity is cultivated and not thwarted by people who are overly concerned with coloring in the lines. I hope that Ruthie knows that I already believe in her. I know that she can accomplish whatever it is she puts her mind & effort into. I want Ruthie to know that I am so happy I married her father and that she gets to have him for a dad. She is so lucky. I look forward to having a laughing fit with her. I can't wait to take her to musicals. I hope that she enjoys playing tennis so that we can play together throughout our lives. I want Ruthie to love her extended family and to have deep/meaningful friendships with kind & compassionate people. I could go on and on... :)
What have you done in the past week that you are proud of?
Hosting a super casual yet incredibly fun gathering of friends at our home even though our house was a mess and it was thrown together completely last minute. I'm proud of this because I think it's too easy to come up with reasons NOT to get together and not to do fun things...
This series is just so great because I've been able to meet mama's I might not have otherwise. Meg, being one of them, brought me so much joy while we spent a bit of a gloomy Saturday afternoon together. Isn't she just doing such an amazing job at being a mother?
Ma Dreams is a project I started this year (2015) after having a creative craving that I felt like I couldn't quench. As a recent first-time mom I've found it extremely hard to find time for the things I love in addition to my sweet babe. I guessed that most moms feel the same. To brings us together and remind Ma's of their dreams too I started this series. Read more here: Ma Dreams.